I have recognized for some time that, from God’s perspective, raising kids was far more about growing me up, than them. But I’m pretty sure it wasn’t just me. If they were completely candid, everyone who has had children would likely voice the same thing. Raising children changes your perspective on just about everything. They impact every area of your life. Without question, it helps you better grasp, at least a little bit, God’s love, and the relationship He wants with us. And perhaps, that’s why He gave them to us. After all, Scripture says, “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3, NLT).
So that’s why I’m genuinely concerned today. As I travel, I am finding more and more young couples who are not wanting to have children. “We’re independent and don’t want to be tied down by kids.” “Children would hamper our lifestyle; we don’t want that.”
And I’m not talking about non-believers, either. These are Christian couples who allow their own selfishness to circumvent God’s plan for families. Children truly are, in so very many ways, an amazing blessing—a gift—from the Lord. Why refuse the gifts He wants to give?
Never before in history has there been a generation that has adopted such an anti-offspring attitude. It’s scary, not just because of the future ramifications, but because those couples are clearly missing out on a blessing from God now.
I would suggest that if you don’t want kids because it might hamper your current independent lifestyle, perhaps that’s a really good reason to have kids. If your life revolves around your wants and desires, you probably need to ditch the selfish attitude and grow up. Children are one of God’s primary means for making that happen.
Are we still friends? 🙂